I heard something on the radio this morning which illustrates why I’m not a big fan of casual sex. The morning DJ does an advice letter every morning at the same time and today’s letter writer was a twentysomething guy who was happily dating around and playing the field. This of course meant that he was sleeping with all the girls he’s dating. This didn’t become horribly awkward until one girl called and told him she could be pregnant. If it’s true, she wants to keep it. Then he got another call from another girl telling him that she might also be pregnant and she wants to keep it.
The cynic in me can’t help but think it’s possible that these women thought they were his one and only, found out about each other, and hatched this plot just to torment him/teach him a lesson. If my Mr. Right Now lead me to believe I was the only one and found out I wasn’t? I can’t promise I’d be above retaliation. I wouldn’t take it this far but that scenario is entirely plausible to me and a lot less crazy than other stuff I’ve actually heard done.
The problem comes up if this is really happening. Sex, as fun as it is, has very real consequences people like to forget about and dismiss because sex is fun and nobody wants to be an uptight prude.
There are diseases, infections, and parasites. Some diseases are asymptomatic in certain genders so that hottie at the bar may be carrying courtesy of someone else. Some diseases like herpes only show symptoms sporadically and can be transmitted with or without protection. HIV can lay dormant for years.
There’s the possibility of off-spring since that’s kind of the biological point of sex. Kids are incredibly expensive. I heard it takes around half a million dollars to take a child from infancy to legal adult. I don’t know how true that actually is but it sound pretty believable to me.
You’re also stuck with the other parent of your child for life. You can stop a lot of one night stands with the question of “Do I want to deal with this person as the parent of my future child for the next 20 years?” Even if you opt not to keep it, adoptive parents aren’t always easy to find and abortions aren’t cheap either.
I will never knock sex between two consenting adults. It’s a fun and intimate thing to do. I’m a big fan. But something with very real consequences should be taken seriously.